Does your teenager use My Eyes Only on Snapchat?
If you don’t know about My Eyes Only on Snapchat…you should. It’s not a new feature (it has been out quite a while), but it is one that most parents aren’t aware is in the app.
My Eyes Only allows Snapchat users to save and hide pictures and videos in the app. The only way to access this secret vault is to know where to look and the password.
If your teenager is using My Eyes Only on Snapchat, it does not necessarily mean that something deep and dark is hidden in there. It does mean you need to have a conversation. Consider these steps to get the words flowing.
Step 1: Discuss the difference between privacy and secrecy
It is important to start here any time you are talking about what is saved online or on a device. Check out this post (https://www.parentingandtechnology.com/2019/03/12/privacy-vs-secrecy/) for the specifics of this conversation.
Step 2: Ask your teenager to teach you about their Snapchat app
The worst way to start an awkward tech conversation is to grab their device and start poking around as you are “giving them the business”. Instead, consider asking them to show you what Find My Eyes Only is on Snapchat. Then let them give you a tour of the feature and their secret vault.
If they don’t have a clue or say they don’t have a clue, then ask for their phone and offer to show them ((https://support.snapchat.com/en-US/a/my-eyes-only) to find all the specifics about how to use this snapchat feature). If you encounter resistance, ask them why. Make sure you come at it from an inquisitive stance and not as an FBI interrogator. It is ok to require the password, but don’t “lose your religion”. Just put the phone/tablet/iPod in timeout until they are ready to let you in the vault.
Step 3: Repeat, repeat, repeat….
This isn’t a one time process. Just because things are ok now, it doesn’t mean it will always be that way. Have the conversation now and then have it again. Open doors of communication is the magic ingredient of this entire parenting and technology process.
Amber (Be Aware)